Can we drop all this pretence ?

Here we are, all the same.  At least most of us we are the same.


Like I....in few months ago I was absolutely workaholic and having not a slice of free time. I tried to do everything to do my work best, but now I have seen life is not only about money and being something or someone who I am not. I am just who I am. I don't really need hundreds of friends everywhere, I just need myself and my life again. So that I can feel it and trust myself of doing the right things in my life. 
Have you ever wondered if you do in life what you really like to do?


I know for all my life, or let me say most of my life, I was hating my work, and everything about it. Now, I have the chance to change that on my own. I know it is a hard decision, but it's better now than later, don't you think so?


In regarding to change it I made some conclusions, which I know other's don't like it, but hey. For who do I live for them or for myself? Definitely I want to live. Really live.To have excitement, adrenalin, to feel my heart in my body and bot doing the same work day by day. I have been doing that for past 12 years and where am I? Frankly no where.  In decision to that I have done some changes in my life. For other's they are small but for me they are huge.


Be brilliant in your world. Don't worry what other's say, just be yourself.
Make decisions and start going on with your life. 
Start working on yourself. For someone is that to start going on diet and for other's that mean start reading or doing sport activities. It doesn't matter what as long as you are happy with it.
Do something good in one day and try to help on this or other way to another human beside you.


Don’t dramatize. Lots of people inflate small setbacks into life-threatening catastrophes and react accordingly. This habit makes mountains out of molehills and gives people anxieties that either don’t exist or are so insignificant they aren’t worth worrying about anyway. Why do they do it? Who knows? Maybe to make themselves feel and seem more important. Whatever the reason, it’s silly as well as destructive.


Stop jumping to conclusions. There are two common ways this habit increases people’s difficulties. First, they assume that they know what is going to happen, so they stop paying attention and act on their assumption instead. Human beings are lousy fortune-tellers. Most of what they assume is wrong. That makes the action wrong too. The second aspect of this habit is playing the mind-reader and assuming you know why people do what they do or what they’re thinking. Wrong again, big time. More relationships are destroyed by this particular kind of stupidity than by any other.


Don’t assume your emotions are trustworthy. How you feel isn’t always a good indicator of how things are. Just because you feel it, that doesn’t make it true. Sometimes that emotion comes from nothing more profound than being tired, hungry, annoyed, or about to get a head-cold. The future won’t change because you feel bad—nor because you feel great. Feelings may be true, but they aren’t the truth.


 And most important...


Don’t hang on to the past. This is my most important suggestion of all: let go and move on. Most of the anger, frustration, misery, and despair in this world come from people clinging to past hurts and problems. The more you turn them over in your mind, the worse you’ll feel and the bigger they’ll look. Don’t try to fight misery. Let go and move on. Do that and you’ve removed just about all its power to hurt you.

Try to relax and meditate

Usually when we are all tired, exhausted of every day life, well...we are then thinking what to do to relax our body, since the body can't cope all the stress of our life.

Then we start thinking on spa, relaxation and just having few minutes on our own. Oh, I know kids can exhaust you and then there are all activities in the afternoon, all work in home and taking care for kids, animals and husband :-)  I'm just joking, but yes there are many times when we don't take care on ourself and we just rush over our life. 

So, please do take care on yourself and once in a while take 10 minutes for a day and go somewhere just to relax few minutes. And meditate. 

When I say meditate, I’m talking about taking 5-10 minutes, maybe more (if you have the time), to silence your mind, using this time as a form of relaxation and renewal. Your body is worth of relaxing for just 10 min a day. Otherwise this kind of life is killing yo, slowly but it is.

You may choose to utilize this time as a way of quietly focusing your mind on the images that you want to experience.  You may choose to utilize this time as a way of opening your mind to new ideas that will improve your life or solve certain problems that you’re encountering.

Your mind is always so busy; take a few minutes everyday to give it a much needed refresher.  “Time-out” is always better than “burn-out.”  Schedule “time-out” daily, if you do, you will be healthier, happier and you will have many more creative ideas to improve your circumstances and your life.

Simply enjoy your life, every minute of your breathe, no matter what is going on around you. It's just important that you are relaxed and calm and then your thinking will be too. Don't worry, the other world will stay in chaos forever.

Do improve your life

Tonight is the perfect night to see one movie named "The girl with the dragon tattoo". I read and heard about it several times, but never decided really to see it. just in the beginning of the movie I loved it. In only took me seven minutes to get fond of this movie. Why? Just because it's about different things, about people who are not "usual" ad in every day's life. I love it. We just have to be different and just simply to be who we are no matter what other's people say. I mean who are they to judge us? They don't know how we feel, what we have lived over the years and what are our desires? Even so close friends or family, don't know us.  

What do we want in our life? 

Most of us do go to work, take care for the money and to have good material things. Why don't you live the way you wanna live? 

Do, try and in the next few days improve your life. 

Try to become An eclectic reader; reader who reads information from a variety of sources.  Reading daily from a variety of authors with different backgrounds and beliefs is an excellent way to expand your mind and change your life. It’s not necessary that you agree with “everything” the authors say; you can learn something from anyone.  Reading from a multiplicity of sources gives you the ability to take-on new concepts, thoughts, and principles that stretch your mind to greater dimensions and new perspectives, allowing you to receive ideas which have “never” been conceived before.

You shouldn't just listen to people who you “agree” with; listen to individuals with unorthodox concepts and view points that you may oppose.   There’s a quote that goes, “If everybody’s thinking the same, then somebody’s not thinking.”  Don’t get caught up in “group thinking,” where your thoughts only mimic that of the greater population.  Use reading as a tool to give you deeper insights so you can form more accurate conclusions.

How many books or articles are you reading a day?  As many of you may know, reading is something that I love to do. I’m reading all the time; the information that I read comes from such a unique variety of authors that it would be very unlikely for someone to “in-take” this same combination of information.  

This rare combination of information provides me with new concepts which have never been thought of before.

Do, work on yourself and on your mind. You are special and brilliant, no matter what are you doing. 

Machine gun preacher

Man who is whole life rebel, being also in jail comes home and goes back to his wife and daughter. This is the start of my latest movie "Machine gun preacher". He is drinking a lot, taking drugs, and always being in some sort of troubles all the time.  His wife helps him to realize and to start believe in God. In some time he gets baptised, which was very important to him and slowly things started to change.He gets a good job, he starts to think in other way, sells his motor bike and takes care for his family.In time he even buys them a better house to live it.
One day in a church he listens to a preacher from Africa about troubles in Sudan and that makes him thinking that they need his help. he talks to his family and finally he goes there to see the true situation of their lives. After his first visit there, he went back home and already got vision, idea how to make a church for rebels and outlaws in home and how to built and orphanage in Sudan to help some of the children there.

Here's my question - do we ever truly see the problems around us? I mean not only saying " Oh, how poor people, we really don't appreciate what we have, etc,..."OK, for a start that is true, but do you ever do anything to change this situation?Really do? I mean you have so many options to help others. Not only by red cross, but also your charity work with your hands and your heart, your smile and most of all your positive thinking. There are so many people in hard times, we can not even imagine.

The movie was cruel, with showing us present story in Africa in Sudan and their war, but I am sure the real situation is even more cruel. Much more worse than it is shown.For most of the thing we even don't hear, 'cos they are so horrible. Not only in Africa, but all over our Planet. Do, please take your precious time and see this movie - it's only 2 hours long and maybe, just maybe you will start thinking a bit different.
Remember for everyone life is magical, and it doesn't matter where you life. Every mother and father wants to have their child to be healthy and alive. Many people do not have the chance to have this, which are things granted for us. Never say how hard is your life, 'cos remember there is always even more hard. We just don't wanna know about that one.

I had a friend who lived in Nkawkaw (small town, near Accra in Ghana) and he was my pen pal. We wrote to each other for many years. He was also killed in one of their wars in Africa. He was only a teenager when he was already in army and fighting to others. Even today I remember how happy he was always when I send him pencils, books and sweets. - no one can't imagine their happiness.   he was only 17 years old when he died. His sister in the end send me her final letter where she wrote me he has died in fighting. So, where do this world ho? And this was already 14 years ago. And situation now is so much worse then at that time.

After all this I can only say, rest in peace somewhere in heaven my dear friend I. Musah.

The Resident

Tonight's movie is made in 2011 and it's called the Resident. I just love it since there is playing Hillary Swanka nd I do love her! She is playing an emergency room surgeon  and after braking up with her ex ( she cought him with another women in their bed!) she startes looking for a new apartment hunting in New York City.

Accidently she finds an apartment for $380 (which is really small price), large and affordable, but with the nearby subway causing noise and vibrations, occasionally even causing objects to fall off the table.  Already on her first night she gets that weird felling that someone is stalking her. And she has that strange felling, you know when you can't trust no oone. Well, she starts to search the whole thing. The owner of the building is all the time bumping into her, like accidently, but in the end it shows that he planned everything. The whole thing. In nights she wokes up and sh see that her doors are closed, but no locked. So, there get's interesting. Then she gets flower at her door and she doeans't know from who...In generl there are many things which happened and the point is that the owner of the place was truly stalking her. At night while she was sleeping he was watching her at first, but later he also put some sedatives in her drinks, so she was all the time sleeping, not knowing what is happening.

He was raping her and dooing all sort of things with her. Unfortanetly she realises that a bit too late, when he already killed her boyfriend. Well, but untill that it's still a long story to go. So, I defintly sugest you to see this movie since it's really great!  It's really not the usually kind of type movie, but it's really good one. In that time I really do wonder myself, who are owners of the places you live in. Is there anyone crepy? Hmm...do hope not and that this kind of story is not in reall life, but only in movies.


My review is in very very good movie...even though I am now scared to walk around the house in dark :-)Got to put some lights on ;-)

Three steps above heaven

My big passion in life is watching movies. Definitely one and the most powerful thing in my life. Through movies we see and learn many things. of course some of them are rubbish, some crazy, some are totally not understandable, but what I like is that there is a damn good story and great soundtrack and great shots.

Yesterday night I watched one movie on suggestion of my close friend. I know I have changed myself in past few months so much, but I said OK, I will watch this romantic movie.
The movie is called "Tres metros sobre el sielo" - first thing was that they spoke in Spanish. I mean it's OK after a while, but since I never watched Spanish spoken movie this was a new treat for me.Whole movie is a mix of teenage love, not understanding the World to them and racing bikes. Like watching Twilight without actual werewolf and vampires. Story of two young people who belong to different worlds.

I totally understand when you are a teenager, you think and have in your head that you can rule the whole World. In fact that is not the real life. Just in starting minutes that "bad guy" fights with few people and the "good girl" is in the end going with him-even though he knocked down her friend. I mean ok, who would ever leave a girl alone with some bad guy? Ha? Seriously? No one. The most ridiculous thing is that she asks him to drive with him - I mean after he knocked down her friend? Well, the story in all about how she falls in love with that bad guy...I mean they say he wants to forget his name because something horrible happened to him. I was really wandering what was that. I was sure death of someone close or something in that area. But boy I was wrong. All about his anger problem was, because his mother was having another man. And he was mad only on that.

Do you really think that his mother and father do not know for each other what are they doing? In some caption he is acting like 5 year old child, wanting everything and if he doesn't have he just takes it with aggression. In the whole movie there are many mistakes done, but hey, who am I to judge them.

First of all if they wanted to have total Spanish movie, why do they have music in it in English? What's the point of it? the message I could get is that good teenage girl is now falling in love with the bad guy and brakes all wall she has, without any respect to her parents or teachers or anyone. Many young girls will see this and enjoy watching it, and I am sure there is always one 2bad guy" for who every girl looks at him and wishes to be his. but no one asks that bad guys really hard to change, and love unfortunately is just not enough.  Aldough everything looks so shiny and romantic and heroic. It's not.
The other thing was bothering me was that he was half of the movie naked like Jake in Twilight. Why??? there are many comparisons to that movie. And I am sure that they even tried to do some comparison to it. It's impossible to make it almost the same and not knowing for it.

Like in the movie he stole a dog of her teacher and blackmail her to give the girl good grey or the teacher won't ever see that dog. I mean wow, how heroic. Stupid as it can be! The girl eventually looks and sees that he made things wrong, but then he is all crying and full of sorry. That can happen only in rich places where you can do whatever you want and whenever and that your parents aren't worried for you. Not even close to a classical romantic story of a bad guy and good girl.

One thing I really liked in the whole movie is scenery of the country which was so beautiful and fantastic direction,  with fantastic cinematography.

So, nothing ravishing new to blow my mind. If you are a gentle, soft romantic person then i recommend you to see this movie, and if you are not, please pick something else.

Doing good work or just cooking

Tonight I was watching famous master chef Jamie Oliver - yeey I know he is so good at what he does! He is now traveling around the World and tasting different kind of food and also cooking it. In this particular serie, which I watched, he was in USA.

I was very touched by one man there - his name is George.
He came many years ago from Columbia and now he is working a s a bus driver. So, nothing fancy. Without any well paid job, he is one man of a  kind. A man we all should look up to.

Every day after his work, he cooks for 70-100 homeless people in his city. No one isn't paying him for nothing, he does everything on his own. From his own pocket, which is not very wealthy one.  So, he cooks food and then drives to homeless people and serve them. He is so humble, he doesn't have much but he gives away everything.

At that point I asked myself, where on Earth are other George's?
Where are people to do something for free for others? Where are they? Why there isn't more help to one another?

In time where we live now, everyone are concerned only how much money will they have, if they will have good and new fancy car, and how great apartment will they have. Oh, and I forgot also how expencise clothes do we have and most important what brand of clothes do we have.

As long as you will all have this kind of thinking always remember that there's someone not having enough to buy essential things to stay alive. In those cases we usually say, oh it's juyt political problem, but there are many people very poor thinking how to buy bread but ashamed to ask. Being homeless is just our last step before dying.

Most of people wanna go away from this "problem", because if you don't see it, then that is not your problem.

Try all of you to make happy or just to talk to someone and make a better day to someone and put smile on your face. Maybe even in style of Jamie Oliver, make dinner for friends, who give volunteer contribution for dinner and then you donate that moeny for those who are really in need for it.

Everyone who loves to cook, also loves to help one another.

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Just to inspire someone ...

So, here am I just to write word by word and hoping that this writing will change life at least one person. My life is going on well, there are no big bounderies and I am still alive. I am sure I will forget what kind of life I had before. Because now, I am surely change the whole point of it.

Before for me it was most important to have enough money to go to shops, buy things which I saw and was able to go to cinema and all other oportunities. Now, since I'm jobless I am here at home, at first I was completely lost, but now....lot's of changes happened.
So, I have my ow garden, having so much vegetable there, so I have to be there every single day and work on it. Money is of course very important for all of us, but I realised we don't need so much as we used to. Why should we?

We have to change our thinking in diferent way and to start seeing that life is magical just to live it. For many years I wasn't been able to have my own hobby - penpaling, I know for many of you it's stupid, crazy and so "out of time", but I am rather enjoying in it. Meeting new people, getting letters and get to know other cultures and countries. So interesting! I mean I can't travel, so this is my "way" of connection to the rest of the wide world.

In concidiration of toher's I decided to write these Blogg and to see if there is any way to change life at leason one person, who is reading this.
My attention is that you should stop thinking that the World is all crazy and fluffy, but we have to think in ourself, what do we want and what do we wish. If you try and wish for something really hard, then there is possibility you will get the dreams come true. So, why not?

Figure in your heart what do you wanna do for the rest of your life? What is your personal goal to and where do you see yourself in like 5 years time of now? You will see that for most of us, we will say we are only dreaming, but if we try and try every day then we have possibility that it can come true.

On the other hand if we even don't try anything, well, what is the point to be angry on every one else around you if you don't wanna change anything?

First steps are always hard, but hey it's worth a while and patiente, so realize that life is too short to think to much. Just do it and enjoy in your life. You never know, what can happen tomorow ;-) Someone told me, when time is right you will just know!