Listen up and open your eyes

Today I had a huge opening in my eyes. I saw one person, who doesn't like black people, just for nothing. I tried, really tried to change his idea in the head since I was sure, nothing like this can't happen in year 2012. And this isn't happening in any far away country, but in the street near us.

So, awful and no one can't do nothing about it, just to try to hope that people get change mind in a way we are all the same-we are all just humans.

Frankly I was shocked to see how people do differences in so many ways. Then I started to think about it - not only black and white-but to many things of changes of money value.

I know people do and act differently when in question is the money. So if you are rich the you are everything and having  almost everything in life.  They are not afraid of no one, because they think they can afford totally everything. I am sure the situation is probably the same.

 And later parents, who have children, don't really know how to spend and play with them, since they pay awful lot of money for other's to play with them.

And on the other hand are those who are poor. Having absolutely no money, or even very little. They get idea of how to work and just work, no matter what, just to earn so money. Sometimes, people close themselves just because they don't belong in certain group or circle of friends.

Loving our life is the most precious and loving our close ones. of course it helps if you have money to have, not worrying hot to get over a month with all the bills and all the things to  buy....having that feeling and life is priceless and many people on the Earth don't have that. We even can't imagine how many....

Love and trust

So, here am I today just thinking how my life goes on.
For ages I was sure all three thing do combine and go together in hand to hand. But now, as older I get I see, life is not only full of roses and hearts.
There are torn, downs and many not so lovely moments.


For me most important is unconditional love. That love is over all other. If we have that, we have the World.
If we don't have that, well, then we have nothing.

The other thing I like is trust. If I trust someone I do believe they trust me to. And if someone gives me a word, what he will do in life, I expect the same thing in return.

So, I was ver yuspet today since my darling one we went to help one friend. Few weeks ago he was so amd on him, since he didn't called him for ages, but now he did some renovation and he again called him. Weeks ago he said, that he won't go for any cost. today he went.

i know he is good hearted person, but there are principals. if you say something out loud so that other's hear, then you have nothing about it. You just have to do what you say and not the opposite.

I know I am stricked and rather being alone than with my "so called" friends, who talk behind my back. I just don't like that, so I rather stay on my own.
That's only one was direction and not two way.

So, in the end if there is no trust there is also no passion.

The Reluctant Suitor

The last book I am reading now is of Kathleen E. Woodiwiss - The reluctant suitor.

She is my favorite book writer ever.She was a “must read” with every book. The Reluctant Suitor brings back fond memories of her earlier works. If you enjoyed her then, I recommend this story with no hesitation. The style I mention is one of descriptive prose with an accent on detail. It is one of well rounded characters, even down to the servants. It is one with lots of complications being thrown in the path of the happy ever after. And it is one of lustful looks and sexual interactions. Once I got used to the style again, I was hooked until the end.

Sixteen years ago, two old friends tried to sign a betrothal agreement between their children - 17-year-old Colton Wyndham and seven-year-old Adriana Sutton. Colton, young and on the verge of independence, absolutely refused to be told what to do. He left home rather than sign the agreement. His family signed it in his place, allowing him a three-month period of time for courtship before the betrothal became official. If after three months, he was determined not to marry, there would be no betrothal. He went off and joined the army, spending the next years advancing in the ranks in the fight to oust Napoleon.

Adriana, a mere snippet of a tomboy, grew into a beautiful young woman. As she grew she realized she thought of Colton in almost a “hero-worship” way. Hearing his rejection and some of the spiteful things he said, she was devastated by Colton’s rejection. (As Adriana was only seven, it is hard to imagine her devastated, yet this is how it was portrayed in the story.) In respect of their parents’ wishes and a good excuse to keep her distance, she continued to use the signed agreement as a means to keep suitors at bay. It is her hope that when he returns he will love her back.

It is now 1815, the war is over, and Adriana is being pursued by many, including an heir to a dukedom and a lowly miller’s apprentice. It is this miller’s apprentice who causes her the most consternation. Roger Elston has set his sights on Adriana. She has agreed to let him call, as she sympathizes with his plight - he was raised in an orphanage and is trying to better himself. She never realizes he actually thinks she will consent to marry him; she assumes he knows it is only friendship on her part.

When Colton returns without warning, recovering from a war wound, he and Adriana agree to abide by the agreement and try the three-month courtship clause. Adriana, completely overwhelmed by the man Colton has become, thinks to shield her heart and only participate until she knows what he will do. Colton, on the other hand, lusts heartily for Adriana, and soon realizes that it would only be his pride standing in the way of agreeing to make her his wife.

But as tends to happen in a Woodiwiss book, many situations block the path of true love. There is the villain Roger, the fortune-seeking former mistress, the uncertainty between the two of their own feelings and many other obstacles. I felt some impatience at the many different paths the plot takes to get us to the end, but the writing kept me in tune and engaged me so much in the outcome, the irritation went away.

Adriana is a strong heroine, who is genuinely intelligent and keeps her wits most of the time. She is true to her era, concerned about things she does not know about men, while maintaining her dignity. She is alternately embarrassed, intrigued and mortified, yet she is neither simpering nor a fool.

Colton is a rogue, but quickly realizes he has a rare gem. He keeps a tight control on his lustful thoughts, so much so that it leads Adriana to fear he does not want her. This is one of those slight annoyances, but again, does not lead to distraction due to the strength of the writing and the sense that this is what probably occurred in the Regency period.

One bright spot for me was that once they fell in love, Colton and Adriana stayed together, even with all the barriers and obstacles. They even worked together to discover how to solve problems and they never doubted their love for each other. How refreshing!

If you are a Woodiwiss fan, give The Reluctant Suitor a try. If you have never read her, this is a good place to start. You may find yourself looking on your bookshelves to re-read some of her older stories, too.

Life....live it!

Another thing crrosed my miind are also few of these things...

- Don’t badmouth other people. If there’s anything you don’t like about someone, say it to him/her in the face – otherwise, don’t say it at all. It’s not nice to do that. And don't talk behind their back. That is just awful!

- Be empathetic. If everyone only see life from his/her own perspective, we’ll forever be close-minded and insular. See things from others’ shoes. You will see so much better picture of life!

- Be a compassionate person. Show compassion and kindness to everyone around you
Develop 100% self-belief. Believe in yourself and your abilities. Remove your limiting beliefs and replace them with empowering ones (In Days 26-27 of Be a Better Me in 30 Days Program, you identify your limiting beliefs and replace them with empowering ones). If you don’t believe in yourself, how can you expect others to believe in you? True, ha?

- Let go of unhappy past. This means past grievances, heartbreaks, sadness, disappointments, etc.
Forgive those who may have done you wrong in the past. “To forgive is to set a prisoner free and realize it was you.” – Lewis B. Smedes

- Let go of attachments. Don’t fixate yourself with a certain status, fame, wealth or material possessions. These are impermanent and will ultimately disappear one day when you die. Focus on growing and living life to the fullest instead.

- Let go of relationships that do not serve you. That means negative people, dishonest people, people who don’t respect you, people are overly critical and relationships that prevent you from growing.
Spend more time with people who enable you. Hang out with people who you compatible with, like-minded people, people who are positive, successful, strong achievers and positive for your growth. You are after all the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with.

Simply trust me and enjoy your life. It's always too short, no matter how you look at it.

And to do more on yourself

I was also thinking on something like this....

- Take action on your goals and dreams. Create an action plan with your strategy, plan and immediate next steps.

- Create your "bucket list", things to do before you die. Then, get out to achieve them.
Don’t do things for the sake of doing them. Always evaluate what you’re doing and only do it if there is meaning behind them. Don’t be afraid to quit the things that don’t serve your path.

- Do the things you love, because life is too precious to spend it doing anything else. If you don’t enjoy something, then don’t do it. Just don't do it. Spend your time and energy on things that bring you fulfillment and happiness.

- Discover your passion in life. What sets you on fire? Go out there (and explore inward) to know what you love to do.

- Make your passion a full-fledged career. Then, start pursuing it. Stop working in a job you are passionless toward. Quit your job when you are ready to do it full-time. Turn your passion into a huge success. Turn your passion into a multi-million dollar/euro business. Better yet, make it a multi-billion dollar/euro one.

- Learn from criticism. Be open to criticism but don’t be affected by it. Criticism is meant to help you be a better person. Learn from it.

- Be positive. Is the glass half empty or half full? How about neither? It’s actually all-full – the bottom half is water, the top half is air. It’s all a matter of perception. Take on empowering perceptions, not those that bind you. If you can see the positive sides of every thing, you’ll be able to live a much richer life than others. Purge unnecessary negativity from your life.

Just live your life

Here are few ways how to live your life more full :-)

- Live every day on a fresh new start. Don’t be held back by what happened yesterday, the day before, the week before, the year before, and so on.
- Be true to who you are. Stop trying to please other people or be someone else. It’s better to be an original version of yourself than an exact duplicate of someone else.
- Quit complaining. Don’t be like the howling dog, always howling and never doing anything. Stop complaining about your problems and work on them instead.
- Be proactive. Stop waiting for others around you to do something and take action yourself instead.
- Rather than think “what if”, think “next time”. Don’t think about things you can’t change (namely what has happened and thoughts of other people) or unhappy things because these are disempowering. Instead focus on the things you can action upon. That’s the most constructive thing you can do in any situation.

- Focus on WHAT vs. How. Focus on WHAT you want first, before you think about HOW to do it. Anything is possible, as long as you set your mind, heart and soul to it.
- Create your own opportunities. You can wait for opportunities to drop in life. Or, you can go out there and create your own opportunities. The latter is definite and much more empowering.

- Live more consciously each day. Stop sleepwalking through life. Your life is something to be experienced, not coasted through.
 - Be committed to your growth. In the Map of Consciousness, there are 17 levels of consciousness – from Shame to Enlightenment. The higher level of consciousness you are in, the richer your life experience.

- Achieving higher consciousness comes from your commitment to growth.
-Know your inner self. This means knowing who you are and what you represent. Be clear of your personal identity.This on is the hardest if you ever ask me :-)

Legends of the Fall

Our life can surprise us so much. I think, well we all think how our life will be going on. But in fact no one doesn't know what and how our life actually will go. Only our imagination is flying and we get those ideas and thinkings in our life.

Few days ago, i decided to watch again movie "Legends of the Fall" which was made in 1994. I was so young back then and seen it then with different eyes as i saw it now in these days. To judge anything, you have to have great guts to do it.

In my opinion the whole story was epic movie. Movie, which you have to see you your life time. I loved the scenery of Rocky mountains in Montana, all those scenes with horses and nature and let me not forget the marvelous actors who were playing there.

The story is about three  brothers, all fell in love with the same women. Such a passionate, sensual story, which is sadly, so true in every second of it. When you fall in love, you don't choose who you love and why you love him. You just do. There is no mathematics about it and no law for it. We cry many times over our love and we fell happy for it in the same time. Isn't that crazy?

In the movie I love the ever lasting story of deep love between man and a women. I know and understand how hard it is to love someone and not getting back the whole package of love. We all should know and understand freedom of each other, but yes it is so hard. It is easy to say it and write about it, but it is so hard to make it true in your life with your heart.

Sometimes, I have the feeling we think too much on people what other's think, instead of being in true and pure love. We think how we will fail, not to think how we will succeed in life.

Do wish you can, or at least one person can change mind and start thinking as today is your last day and live full of it. Tell your close ones how much you love them. Try to inspire someone. Try to do your best of this day!

Simply be alive and give your energy to those who need it. May this day be the best day of all you had. And don't forget this is just your day ;-)